No matter of whether labor is long or short, whether it is heavy or easy whether an infant is birthed vaginally or by abdominal delivery, most parents recall the beginning hours and days after birth as crystal-clear images surrounded by haze. It is in this haze that you first take in your infant and make a giant leap from pregnancy to parenting.

Despite all the anticipatory parenting done before conception and during pregnancy, despite weeks of feeling movement within and fantasizing about your infant, despite months of having strange dreams, worrisome thoughts, and musings about what kind of parent you will be, the first time you hold your infant in your arms and call yourself mother or father, mama or papa, mommy or daddy, an awareness floods over you that life will never be the same again. Another human being is now dependent upon you for survival. More than anything else, you want to be the best parent possible.


Your awareness of your infant dependency and your desire to be a good parent will together be a great source of energy and a great source of stress. Both are part of being a parent.

Becoming a good parent means much more than knowing a lot about infants. Ask pediatric doctors or nurses what it was like for them to be new parents. They will tell you that all their knowledge about child was not enough to keep them from being over whelmed by their own child. All new parents feel the same way. All new parents work at knowing, understanding, and loving their child. Your infant will work just as hard at learning to know, understand, and love you. This is the process of attachment-the work that parents and child do together to form a deep and lasting love. It is what becoming a family is all about.

This book is written to give you some help as you make the transition from pregnancy to parenting. It offers ideas on things you can do to make this time of change easier. It is written as much to encourage as to teach you. Besides providing the information you need about taking care of yourself and your infant, it can help build your trust in your own wisdom about your family’s needs. You will find the postpartum period easier if you know what to expect during this time, if you actively participate in healthcare decisions, and if you build a network of support that nurtures your growing family.

New families in the United States face some challenges that families in most other countries do not. In the United States, where nearly 99 percent of women give birth in hospitals, the average hospital stay after childbirth is two days for a woman who has given birth vaginally, three to four days for a woman who has given birth by cesarean. In many communities, new families are discharged from the hospital within twenty-four hours of birth. Such early discharge will probably become the norm by the year 2000.

In most other countries, both industrialized and developing, the postnatal period is seen as being at least as important as the prenatal period. Because of this, women giving birth in hospitals have longer stays. More significantly, services are brought to the homes of new families. No matter how long the stay in a hospital or birth center, the family’s transition to home-and to sole responsibility for the newborn-is overwhelming. in many countries all new families are visited at home by midwives, nurses, or other trained personnel who teach parenting skills, assess the mother’s and infant’s health, and provide moral support (and sometimes, as in the Netherlands, government-paid helpers do the housekeeping!). In the United States, such services are now provided to only a little minority of women.
Other Changes You May Notice.

The day after birth, you may ache all over from the work you did in labor. Your arms and legs may be sore from pulling back on your legs while pushing out the infant.

Although achy legs are normal, tenderness, pain, or warmth in your calves and swollen or reddened veins are warning signs that you should report to your doctor or midwife immediately. These signs could indicate thrombophlehitis, an inflammation of a vein that can result in formation of a blood clot. Postpartum women are at slightly increased risk of this because the vein walls normally relax somewhat in pregnancy. To reduce the risk of thrombophlebitis, increase circulation in your legs by doing foot rotations (see page 2 1) and by getting up and walking soon after birth. Thrombophlebitis is treated with bed rest, elevation of the affected leg, hot packs, and the use of elastic stockings. Medications may also be needed to prevent infection and clot formation. The affected leg should not be massaged.

Joints that relaxed in pregnancy to allow for the infant’s growth and birth will return to their pre-pregnancy condition within several weeks of birth. Many women, however, feel that the rib cage and pelvis remain slightly expanded for the rest of their lives.

Abdominal muscles are relaxed after birth, so the abdomen is soft and still rounded. All women have some degree of separation of the abdominal muscles, which lessens with exercise.

Any stretch marks you have will seem more obvious after birth than before. Although stretch marks never completely disappear, they fade to silvery white lines in the months after childbirth. Darkened areas of the skin, such as the areola and the linea nigra, a dark line from the belly button to pubic bone, may tighten but may not completely fade.

Many women note changes in their hair after birth-most commonly, profuse hair loss. This is because pregnancy hormones stimulate hair growth. With the drop in these hormones, the extra hair that grew in pregnancy will fall out. This begins around three months after birth and usually ends within a couple of months.

Perhaps the most common feeling of new mothers after childbirth is that of being bone-tired. This seems especially true of women who have just had their first child. Often, fatigue is combined with such excitement in the first days that sleep is difficult. The usual aches and pains of the early postpartum period can make it even harder to sleep. But beyond the first few days after birth, most women find daily naps are essential to their well-being.
Caring for Yourself after a Cesarean.

Each woman recovers in her own unique way after cesarean birth, just as after vaginal birth. Pain medications can help during the first few days (the medications given are considered safe during breastfeeding). The nurses will assist you in getting up the first time, learning to cough or huff to keep your chest clear, dealing with the gas that can follow surgery, and learning to hold your infant in ways that are comfortable for you. If assistance is not available when you need it, press your call button and ask for help.

All new parents can benefit from assistance at home after childbirth, but for a woman who has had a cesarean birth such help is essential for at least the first week. Not only are you undergoing a transformation to a nonpregnant state and learning to care for your new infant, you are recovering from major surgery. Adequate help, allowing you to rest often during the day, can make a great difference in how quickly you feel strong and well. Taking care of yourself and your infant should be your only duties until you feel ready to take on more.

These activity restrictions are usually recommended:

* Limit stair climbing as much as possible.
* Don’t lift anything heavier than your infant for the first two weeks.
* Ask your mate or a friend to do laundry, vacuuming, and other tasks that require bending, lifting, or pushing for at least the first few weeks after birth. Then resume such work gradually.
* Do not drive a car for the first two weeks.

Take showers instead of tub baths until the incision is completely healed and dry. Ask your doctor or midwife for specific instructions on the care of your incision.
Accepting Your Initial Responses to Your Infant.

Like her labor, a woman’s initial response to her infant is something she remembers for a lifetime. Women greet their child in as many ways as there are mothers. Before they give birth, most women anticipate a rush of loving feelings, or even tears of joy. others anticipate instantly “feeling like a mother.” Some women actually experience these things. Many do not.

Sometimes, a woman experiences a temporary holding back from the infant whose birth caused pain or emotional trauma. A new mother may have a feeling of distance-which in retrospect may seem like disinterest. Or she may feel a strong need to attend to herself, pain and exhaustion compete with interest in the infant. in retrospect, she may see herself as selfish. Coolness, distance, self-centeredness-none of these fit with any woman’s conception of a “good mother.” Because of this, many women say they feel guilty about their initial responses to their child.

Many women speak of feeling outside of themselves after labor. It is as though one’s personal boundaries are hazy. Is it any wonder that women feel they are not taking their child in-”as they should?” They can hardly take themselves in! This is to be expected. Most women say it takes days to come back into themselves. This is the natural rhythm of things. Something amazing is going on. As boundaries are reclarified, they are also redefined. You are now a mother. Your infant is no longer one with you, as in pregnancy. But the new boundaries are extended, to connect you for a lifetime to this other person. This connection is the essential work of the first months of parenting. You may have all the loving feelings you anticipated, but if you do not, give them time to evolve, as you do the work of taking on your new role.
Signs of Illness in a Newborn.

Many parents doubt whether they will recognize if the infant is sick. When you have no experience with child, being told that a sick infant behaves differently from a well infant is of little comfort. if everything about your infant seems unfamiliar, it is hard to have confidence that you can and will recognize changes that indicate your infant is ill. Besides, healthy child can cry for a couple of hours each day. Crying does not tell you as much in the first weeks as it will when your infant is older. So how will you know if your infant is sick? Asking yourself these questions may help:

* Is there a change in the infant’s behavior? Is the infant crying more than usual? Has the tone of the cry changed? Is the crying at a different time of day than usual? Is the infant more irritable than usual? Is the infant sleeping more or less than usual? Does the infant seem lethargic or listless?
* Has the infant’s appetite or digestion changed? Is the infant eating less than usual? Has the infant vomited more than once? If the infant is vomiting, is the vomiting forceful? (This is called projectile vomiting.) Are there signs of constipation? That is, are the stools hard or more solid than usual? Are there signs of diarrhea? That is, are the stools watery, or more runny than usual? Are they more frequent than usual? Is the infant urinating less frequently than usual? Has the color of the urine changed?
* Has there been a change in the infant’s breathing? Does the infant seem to have trouble breathing? Does the infant sound congested? Does the infant have a runny or stuffy nose? Is the infant coughing?
* How does the infant look? Is the infant’s skin pale or flushed? Is there a rash anywhere on the infant’s body? Do the infant’s eyes look glassy or dull? Is there any discharge from the eyes?
* Does the infant have a fever?

Any of these changes could indicate illness. if you notice any of them, or other worrisome changes in Your infant, call your infant’s care- giver. When you call the office, be prepared to describe:

* The signs of illness about which you are concerned.
* How long the signs have been present.
* What you need: to have the caregiver return your call; to speak to the caregiver immediately, if you feel this is an emergency; or to arrange for the infant to be seen as soon as possible.

CRIB SAFETY TIPS if you have a used crib or are considering buying one:

* Make sure it has no corner posts. older infants can catch clothing on these.
* Check that the crib slats are no more than 2 3/8 inches apart. Never put a infant in a crib that has missing slats.
* Make sure that the mattress is firm, and that it fits tightly within the crib rails, with no more than a 1-inch space (two fingers width) between the rails and the mattress.
* Assure yourself that all guide rods and support brackets are firmly in place and secure, and that no screws are missing.
* Check the locks and latches on the crib. They should be smooth, and tight enough to prevent accidental release.
* Be certain the paint used on the crib is lead-free. If it isn’t, the old paint should be removed. if you’re pregnant or nursing, have someone else do the stripping, preferably away from your home, or at least outside the house and away from any play or garden area. New paint should be a high-quality, lead-free enamel recommended for children’s furniture. Some child do chew on their cribs, and ingesting lead can cause brain damage.
* If your crib is new, remove and discard all plastic packaging materials, including the thin plastic mattress cover. As with a used crib, check the guide rods, support brackets, locks, and latches, and make sure no screws are missing.
* With any crib, new or old, place the crib out of reach of any cords, electrical sockets, or other hazards.
* Keep crib rails up at all times when the infant is unattended.
* As soon as your infant can pull himself or herself up, move the mattress to the lowest position. There should be at least 22 inches between the mattress and the top of the rail.

If you plan to use a bassinet or cradle instead of a crib, many of these same safety tips will still apply.
Some Basics about Feeding

Expectant parents know they will have a lot to learn after their child arrive. They know it will take time to feel confident about diapering, bathing, and soothing a infant. Most have been told that feeding, too, will be a learning experience. It is not until after the birth, however, that the true meaning of this is dear. Parents often say they had not anticipated that the infant, too, would need to learn to feed. Also unanticipated is the profound concern parents have that their child be adequately nourished.

Even as adults, many people are greeted by their mothers with the questions “Are you hungry? Do you want to eat?” These are questions you will find yourself asking your infant. It is natural for you to feel somewhat anxious when the infant’s answers are not as clear as you might like. Following are some basics about feeding that can guide you as you gain experience.
Postpartum Fathers

Feelings after Birth. Fathers who are present at birth are, more often than mothers, captured by the infant immediately. Whereas women may need minutes, hours, or a few days to feel connected to the infant, fathers often feel the power of this connection at the moment of birth. Unless the mother or infant is in some danger just after birth, the father is likely to find these moments life-changing and exquisite. These feelings are often blended with a sudden awareness of exhaustion.

A father also experiences new feelings about his mate. He may speak of his amazement at her courage, strength, and endurance during labor. He now faces the task of integrating his memory of her in labor with his previous knowledge and feelings about her.

A father may have to work through feelings he experienced while supporting the mother in labor. One of the most common feelings fathers speak about after labor is that of helplessness. Unless he is told, a man may not know how much his presence and emotional support really meant to the laboring woman.

A man may also feel that the labor experience has altered his whole life view. He may have gained a sense of the miraculous and spiritual, of a deeper meaning to life.

Not all fathers, of course, are able to share the birth experience. A lot of fathers who missed their child’ births worry that not having been there will affect their relationships with their child. Birth is a special moment in the parent-child relationship, but it is only one moment. The years of child rearing provide many other shared moments that are just as important in the development of a relationship between father and child.

Excerpt reprinted with permission from foxcontent.com

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Just don’t ask how it happened, please.

But what’s really interesting is that how do people go through the usual part of life when faced with vein-popping stress? I mean, the new age thing like rest or pray is one of the good things and it actually works. Is there room for the intellectual side of people who can actually smell the roses-in-a-can while on the move? It kind of had me thinking that there really must be something in this ‘mind-over-matter’ thing.

Humor is indeed the best medicine there is whenever you are. I mean anyone can pay good money to listen to a comedian just to make you wet your pants after laughing so hard. Despite of what’s been happening, and to those who has gone though the ordeal, it’s better to just laugh while facing the troubles with a clear mind than anger with a clouded vision. One of my favorite celebrities of all time may have to be Woody Allen. Now this is one guy who gives you the in-your-face bluntness that he pulls out with gusto, even without even trying. You can talk just about anything with a man, and he’s bound to mock the subject and you’ll end up laughing rather than being upset about it.

Woody Allen has this to say:

1. “Money is better than poverty, if only for financial reasons.” It sounds good to me, I mean the practicality of all things does involve money but it doesn’t have to take an arm and a leg to get it.

2. “I believe there is something out there watching us. Unfortunately, it’s the government.” ‘Nuff said.

3. “There are worse things in life than death. Have you ever spent an evening with an insurance salesman?” This happens to be one of the classic ones. I mean the issue about life’s little problems isn’t all that bad, until ‘he’ shows up.

Sure, relationships can get complicated, or does have its complications that probably any author about relationships is bound to discover it soon. We follow what our heart desires, unless you’re talking about the heart as in the heart that pump blood throughout your body.

4. “Love is the answer, but while you’re waiting for the answer, sex (with wife) raises some pretty interesting questions.” And if you want more, just keep on asking!

5. “A fast word about oral contraception. I asked a girl to mary with me, she said ‘no’.” It sounds, ‘practical’, I think.

And when it comes to everyday life, he really knows how to make the best out of every possible scenario, and it doesn’t involve a lawsuit if he strikes a nerve.

6. “Basically my wife was immature. I’d be at home in the bath and she’d come in and sink my boats.” I never had a boat in my bathtub before. Just staring at it while soaking in hot water makes me seasick already.

7. “I am not afraid of death, I just don’t want to be there when it happens.” If it rains, it pours.

8. “I am thankful for laughter, except when milk comes out of my nose.” It could get worse when you’re guzzling on beer… or mouthwash, and it happened to me once!

9. “If you want to make Allah happy, tell him about your plans.” At least he doesn’t smite us with lightning, and I’m thankful for that.

And despite of what may happen to all of us in the next ten, twenty, or even thirty years, I guess we all have to see things in a different kind of light and not just perspective. I can’t seem to imagine life without any piece of wisdom that could guide us. Whether we’re religious or not, it takes more courage to accept your fears and learn how to deal with them is all that matters when it comes to even just getting along.

And to sum things up, here is the last nugget of wisdom to go by… however, whenever, and wherever we may be.

10. “The talent for being happy is appreciating and liking what you have, instead of what you don’t have.”

Ciao!

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1. bad ovum
2. cells are deficient spermatozoa resulting in disrupted fetal development and experience can lead to abnormalities and fetal death in the womb.
3. infertility, uterine lining (endometrium), which is caused by lack of nutrition, or there is disease in the womb.
4. systematic disease factors, the woman carrying the disease have high blood pressure, kidney or other.

Several clinical forms of miscarriage:

1. Insiplens abortion (threatened miscarriage), the potential mother to be having a miscarriage. This can be prevented if there are no openings at the mouth of the uterus by way of treatment, adequate rest and even bed rest / edict lying (istrahat in bed) during pregnancy.
2. Inkompletus abortion (miscarriage is not complete) in the womb as blood is menstrual blood, but the cervix has closed. should consult with your doctor. some events (patient) is often confused because she was pregnant but why still menstruating regularly.
3. Kompletus abortion (complete abortion), spending the entire contents of the uterus.
4. Missed Abortion (interruption of pregnancy), pregnancy has occurred but the result in the conception less more than 6 weeks, a miscarriage can occur or a blood clotting disorder can menajadi source of infection. Missed abortion dikeluakan in hospital with surgery or by way of special preparation with the help of a doctor.

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Being in the affiliate marketing business is not that hard now with the internet at your disposable. It is much easier now compared to the days when people have to make use of the telephones and other mediums of information just to get the latest updates on the way their program is coming along.

So with technology at hand, and assuming that the affiliate is working from home, a day in his or her life would sound something like this…

Upon waking up and after having breakfast, the computer is turned on to check out new developments in the network. As far as the marketer is concerned there might be new things to update and statistics to keep track on.

The site design has to be revised. The marketer knows that a well-designed site can increase sign ups from visitors. It can also help in the affiliate’s conversion rates.

That done, it is time to submit the affiliate program to directories that lists affiliate programs. These directories are means to attract people in joining your affiliate program. A sure way of promoting the affiliate program.

Time to track down the sales you are getting from your affiliates fairly and accurately. There are phone orders and mails to track down. See if they are new clients checking the products out. Noting down the contact information that might be a viable source in the future.

There are lots of resources to sort out. Ads, banners, button ads and sample recommendations to give out because the marketer knows that this is one way of ensuring more sales. Best to stay visible and accessible too.

The affiliate marketer remembered that there are questions to answer from the visitors. This has to be done quickly. Nothing can turn off a customer than an unanswered email.

To prove that the affiliate is working effectively and efficiently, inquiries would have to be paid more attention on. Nobody wants to be ignored and customers are not always the most patient of all people. Quick answer that should appear professional yet friendly too.

In the process of doing all the necessities, the marketer is logged on to a chat room where he or she interacts with other affiliates and those under that same program. This is where they can discuss things on how to best promote their products.

There are things to be learned and it is a continuous process. Sharing tips and advices is a good way of showing support. There may be others out there wanting to join and may be enticed by the discussion that is going on. There is no harm in assuming what opportunities ahead.

The newsletters and ezines were updated days ago, so it is time for the affiliate marketer to see if there are some new things happening in the market. This will be written about in the marketer’s publication to be distributed to the old and new customers.

These same publications are also an important tool in keeping up to date with the newly introduced products. The marketer has put up a sale and promotion that customers may want to know about. Besides, they have to keep up with the deadline of these sales written in the publications.

It is that time to show some appreciation to those who have helped the marketer in the promotions and sale increase. Nothing like mentioning the persons, their sites and the process they have done that made everything worked.

Of course, this will be published in the newsletters. Among the more important information that have been written already.

The marketer still has time to write out recommendations to those who want credible sources for the products being promoted. There is also time to post some comments on how to be a successful affiliate marketer on a site where there are lots of wannabees.

Two objectives done at the same time. The marketer gets to promote the product as well as the program they are in. Who knows, someone may be inclined to join.

Time flies. Missed lunch but is quite contented with the tasks done. Bed time….

Ok, so this may not be all done in a day. But then, this gives you an idea of how an affiliate marketer, a dedicated one that is, spends the marketing day.

Is that success looming in the distance or what?

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Some researchers at the University of California, Los Angeles (UCLA), makes this conclusion after using the Hubble Space Telescope to study the Pallas, the second largest asteroid in the Milky Way system, according to the study, published in the journal Science, published in October.

Pallas, whose name is derived from a Greek goddess, Pallas Athena, was in the main asteroid belt between the orbits of Jupiter and Mars.

According to the theory of planet formation, planets prototype is the gas particle clouds, rocks, and dust that are in the process of planet formation. Prototype little planet in the path of each other’s orbit, resulting in collisions and gradually form a true planet.

“It is exciting to see a new perspective of this object is very interesting and not observed by the Hubble’s high resolution,” said UCLA doctoral level students, Britney E Schmidt, lead author of the study.

“We estimate, a huge asteroid is not just a block planets are formed, but as an opportunity to study planet formation frozen in time,” said Schmidt.

“Having the opportunity to use Hubble’s, and seeing that image again and understand it can automatically change what we think about these objects,” Schmidt said as reported China’s official news agency, Xinhua.

With the Hubble images, Schmidt said he and his colleagues can make a new measurement of the shape and size of Pallas. They can see the surface has dark and bright areas, which shows a rich body of water that may have undergone internal changes in the same way through which the planet.

“That’s what makes it more like a planet – variations in color and round shape is very important as far as we understand, is a dynamic object or objects that have exactly the same size since formed,” said Schmidt. “We thought maybe it is a dynamic object.”

For the first time, Schmidt said, he and his colleagues also saw a big crash at Pallas. They could not tell whether it is a crater, but her depression did show something else important: that it can lead to smaller families Pallas asteroids that orbit in space.

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